Forgive Yourself

Dear cheater, I know it’s hard to forgive yourself after being forgiven by the loveone you hurt. You was forgiven and given a second chance to make things right grow up and correct your mistakes. Don’t carry the guilt any longer forgive yourself. While you’re learning how to love yourself and others. Give the person that you cheated on time to build trust in you and you both will fall in love with each other again. Only talk about your pain in couples therapy, not to each other. Dear victim, once you have forgiven your mate for hurting you, never bring up the pain of being cheated on again. Never keep a list of wrongs to throw it in the face of the one that hurt you. Never use it for ammunition in your relationship to win a fight between you. Forgiveness means you’re ready to move on in the relationship. When you choose to stay with a cheater find other ways to heal. Learn to trust yourself and your decisions you are going to be fine whether the relationship works out or not. We all have to learn to believe in ourselves whether we are alone or in a relationship. Blessings to you both as you move forward as a team, learn to put God first in everything you do. There isn’t any complete love in any relationship. Unconditional love is key. Love like you’ve never been hurt. ๐Ÿ’‹ ๐Ÿ’˜

Don’t Continue to Pee On My Leg and Tell me that it’s RAINING. YOU CHEATED ON ME! 2009

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She came out and admitted to her husband which was your first cousin: you remember him? You were raised as brothers. Well baby, no one in the family believes you didn’t sleep with her/make-love-to her twice. Get real! I know you love me. You loved her first. You sowed your wild-oats. She married her husband to get to you. You both got what you wanted (eachother). You both are guilty. Her husband wanted Revenge and grieved himself to death by losing his fight with cancer. Not I, I gave it to God and forgave you. I am beautiful and healthy and full of life. For my readers who think I think I have all the answers. Everything I write: I write from experience. Do not let anyone dictate your life. Focus on you. You are beautiful. Real Talk.

The Crisis ๐Ÿ’” Text Line

Did you know that if you text ๐Ÿ“ฒ 741741 when you are feeling depressed๐Ÿ˜” or suicidal, a crisis worker will text you back immediately to text with you? Many people, especially younger individuals, do not like talking on the phone and would be more comfortable texting. It’s a free service to ANYONE…teens, adults etc. living in the U.S.. It is run by The Crisis Text Line. You do not have to be suicidal, you can text if just depressed. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. This is anonymous and texting fees are waived.

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Oman McCullough Fuqua the author of Unfolding Souls. Check out my blog read about my Passing the Pen. PTP Campaign.

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Passing My Pen Lecture at the Mental Health Clinic in Cali. See you next year ladies.

 

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Unfolding Souls Passing the Pen Campaign Lecture I had a wonderful time August 1st 2017 Cali Style. Everyone has a sad story to tell that hasn’t been told. By Oman McCullough-Fuqua Thanks to Mrs. Carolyn Moore a Mental Health Counselor for the Invitation to speak at the Mental Health Clinic and to the women who listened and participatedย โคโคโคโคโคโค๐Ÿ’•

I am the Arthur of 4 books. I was born and raised in the San Francisco Bay Area of California. Number 9 of 9 children by the same parents. Every human being has a spirit within us whether good, or bad. I shared my story of abuse with the world throughโ€ Passing the Pen Campaignโ€ I created the campaign from my novel Unfolding Souls to talk about the bad spirits I picked up from my abusers and sex partners. After writing my story down on paper I became aware that the things I was doing and the decisions I was making wasnโ€™t my character. I had been living up to the reputation that people had given me. As I begin to find myself in pages and pages of my life story my healing process begin. Today by the grace of God I am fully recovered.

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Before I start:

ย Q 1. Are there anyone who feels uncomfortable listening as I read and talk about my personal abuse? If yes. Why? Usually the women who are uncomfortable are the women whoโ€™s been through similar situations and never mentally dealt with their problems or the pain of abuse.

Why are you here? Most abused women will talk to me because thereโ€™s no one else to talk to without judgement.ย 

I search the internet on my blog I introduce myself to young and old women that have survived their abuse and don’t want to live still. Some have tried to commit suicide or they are in distress and don’t have anyone to talk to. I share my story and encourage them that fully recovery is possible. It takes a strong ย person, woman or man ย to write their story down on paper or blog it out. I will continue to tell my story and continue to help women heal from their pain. I pray for abused men and women to find fully recovery and peace of mind.

Iโ€™m here because I was raped at 16 and my rapist got me pregnant. After three months of my pregnancy I was raped again because my first rapist told my second rapist that I was giving sex away. After I had my son I met a guy that I fell in love with and I used him for sex to numb my pain. He began abusing me after I used the word โ€œNoโ€ to his proposal to marriage. I tried to leave him, he kidnapped me and put a gun to my head threatening to kill me and then himself. I was given a bad reputation of being promiscuous by people around me. I was feeling to broken to talk up for myself I tried to live up to my bad reputation and continued sleeping with men to numb my pain. Today I know that person I portrayed to be back then was not my character but the reputation people gave me. Today I possess the character inside the woman God created me to be with class and style. ย I know who I am.

20170424_224950_0ย Q2. Do you know when you have been abused you see the world through abused eyes you make decisions through an abused Mine Heart and Soul. The things you do are not your true character.

Q3. Page 24 What age were you when you were abused? A 18 year old blogger asked me that question. Looking back on my time of abuse I would say to my young self; we made it through because of you.ย 

Q4. Page 36. What do you do to escape your anger and pain? Do you use others. Do you do things that has become an addiction? ย Being addicted to drugs and alcohol only depends the pain and feels like you’re walking around with open wounds. Read from the book starting at page 35

Q5. Read page 247 Why do we bring people in our lives and want them to love us and we don’t love ourselves?

Q6. Page 46 Why are we hard on ourselves and feel we are not deserving of love. Why do we not value ourselves enough to work toward a total healing.

Q7. Page 111 What was your Breaking Point your rock bottom? The women shared their rock bottom, mind-blowing stories.

Q8. Are any one of you feeling hopeful about your healing process? If so, after today what are you going to do differently? Live well do your best and stay focus on a fully recovery. Write Your Story down and free your mind from pain. Let go and forgive. Create a happy place in your mind and never let anyone interrupt your positive thoughts.

Q9. Do you believe in a Higher-Power? I am a believer in God. I DONโ€™T LET PEOPLE GET IN MY HEAD. Read Ezekiel 36 and receive a new heart from God. I’m a living testimony that God is real and I have the new heart that he promised.

Thank you to the women who shared their stories and shedded tears. Telling your story is a healthy part of your healing process. You’re on the road to recovery.

Author: Oman McCullough Fuqua blogging it out @ https://publishoman.wordpress.com

Do we find ourselves through happiness or through pain?

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When I was in pain I hit rock bottom. I found myself through pain. I was born into a happy family and I had chose a different direction from what I was taught.

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Now that I believe in myself and the way that I was taught. My soul is happier; I found another side of me. A spiritual positive side that celebrates every moment I ย Live and breathe. I want everyone souls to be happy.IMG_20161108_104559_0_1_0

 

Dungeon Tales Rap From the Book “Masterpiece The Brass Tacks” – SoundCloud

A mystery thriller. My Sound Track, is a scene in the book where the main character Nandi Blues had been kidnapped, drugged and is hallucinating. As she raps to her kidnappers about getting even. The animals, rodents, and insects around her are feeding off of her body and are high on the substance in her veins. Every creature in the room is hallucinating. Listen to Dungeon Tales Rap From the novel “Masterpiece The Brass Tacks” by Oman McCullough Fuqua #np on #SoundCloud